I recently reconnected with a friend whom I had met years ago. We met, we connected, and she moved away quickly afterward. Our friendship was left on pause…we somewhat stayed connected to one another on Instagram but never fully stayed in touch. I say that our friendship was left on pause because what happened next neither of us could’ve planned for. For what was a beautiful beginning that we didn’t quite understand…paused…only for us to reconnect under what most would call the worst circumstances…but for us…we reconnected exactly when we were supposed to.
Two bereaved Moms are what we now are…both mourning the loss of our babies. Who would’ve guessed that our connection to one another years ago would lead us here…that we would both be in a similar situation…that our connection in the past was for this exact moment now. We both need one another more than I can explain in words but I will try…our bond is strong as we know each others darkest moments…we both feel the same…we both are living similar paths.
The fact that we found each other once again in light of our situations is only proof to me that everything truly does happen for a reason. I was in need of her as much as she was in need of me. She found me during a transition in my life…a time that I was struggling to find peace with. She has been the voice of things I have said to myself over and over but sometimes have a hard time believing. It is always easier to state these things to others then to actually listen to your own words…but now…now these thoughts and these feelings are being validated. Someone else gets it.
I have had many ask me to join a support group, find someone who is in this journey right now with you…and I never really thought I needed to. I have an amazing support group filled with friends, family, and other Mom’s that I have connected with but none like this. This connection truly is a gift. A gift that came at exactly the right moment, exactly when I needed her. She now walks hand in hand with me down the same path. We share the same fears and joys. We are connected with one another with tears, laughter, doubts, joys, and all things in-between.
Her and her husband have been bereaved now for 8 months as Jack and I have been for 7…we truly are walking hand in hand. I now understand why so many asked me to find someone like this, to talk to someone who understands the ups and downs of the path that I am walking right now. She found me…and I couldn’t be more grateful.
We love you Jackie!
#ourjackofhearts